Where Have All The Good Guys Gone?

February is the month my dad would have turned 90. With his birthday approaching, I am in a state of reflection.

Good guys, men of integrity, men of honor, waiting for a Godly man, men who love God, men who love their wives, men who love their children, men who value marriage, men who value family, putting God first as a husband

It’s been 2 years and 2 months since my dad left this world. I still miss my dad. It’s different, though, the way I grieve him. Dad led a good life, so, even though I do miss him, I am grateful at the same time. Especially since he died right before Covid hit. I am glad he isn’t here for all the ways the world has changed.

My dad was one of the good guys. He was a man of honor and integrity; a man of his word. A man who loved God and his family.

Dad held firm to traditional values when it came to those things. Maybe it’s because of his age? I’m not sure but, when I think of my dad’s character I can’t help but wonder where have all the good guys gone?

They’re still around, I know. I see them where I work, which is also my church. I watch them closely, especially the younger guys. It catches my attention when I see a young husband cherishing his wife and children. It catches my attention when I see that his relationship with Jesus is the most important relationship in his life. I watch him as he cultivates that relationship and makes sure he does nothing to jeopardize his walk with Christ.

It naturally follows that his relationship with his wife is next in line of importance. As long as he values his relationship with the Father, then he will remain committed to his wife and he will do nothing to jeopardize that relationship either because to do so would be grievous toward God and would affect his relationship with the Father. A wise man knows this is true.

When I watch these young husbands, I see men who know their children are the greatest gifts on Earth. To cherish his relationship with God first, and his wife second, it naturally follows that he would cherish his relationship with his children and do nothing to jeopardize those either. It’s all about family and God.

Where have all the good guys gone?

They’re still here. Granted they may be few and far between but, from where I sit, they are alive and well.

I see couples who genuinely and honestly love each other because they genuinely, honestly, and purposely follow Jesus. You can’t have one without the other. Because not having a relationship with Jesus as the most important relationship in your life makes the relationship with your wife subject to things outside.

Things that come unexpectedly.

Things that may tempt.

Things that look exciting and fun.

Things that may promise happiness but they are false, empty promises, unable to fulfill or last.

Where have all the good guys gone?

They’re still here, full of honor and integrity, just like my dad. So, I speak to the young woman who feels so alone because all your friends are part of a couple. They are married and having babies. You’re tempted to settle for less than what you deserve, but more importantly less than what God desires you to have.

DON’T! DO. NOT. SETTLE. THOUGH IT MAY BE HARD, WAIT FOR THE MAN WHOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP THAT HE WILL EVER HAVE. IF YOU DO, THEN YOU WILL HAVE A GOOD LIFE TOO, A GOOD MARRIAGE. NOT A PERFECT ONE BUT ONE THAT WILL STAND THE TEST OF TIME.

This is not our forever home. Keep your eyes focused on your Everlasting home and allow God to bring a good guy to you.

It’ll save you a lot of heartache and you won’t have to wonder where all the good guys have gone. You will be married to one.

I am an ordained minister and a hope coach. I would love to hear your story, or how you’re walking this out in your life as a single woman.

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