Loneliness is such a sad affair, and I can hardly wait to be with you again.” Those are some lyrics to the hit song Superstar by The Carpenters that was released in 1971.

I was reminded of those words today as I listened to Kyle Idleman talk about loneliness in his sermon called Proximity Principle//One At A Time. He made the statement that we are the loneliest group of people that ever lived even though we have so many “connections”  to so many people these days due to all the social media avenues of “connecting”.

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Why are we surprised at that, I wonder? Surely we have all felt the tug of loneliness as we scroll through the feed and watch the reels of all the exciting adventures other people are having.

All the success.

All the gatherings.

All the travels.

While we sit at home…alone. Or worse still, sit in a room filled with loved ones as we are each consumed with our own devices. Again, alone.

Of course we’re lonely!

Kyle mentioned an interview with Elon Musk that intrigued me so I did a little digging myself.

Elon Musk, the richest man alive these days said this after breaking up with his girlfriend in 2017: “I will never be happy without having someone. Going to sleep alone kills me. It’s not like I don’t know what that feels like; being in a big empty house, and the footsteps echoing throughout the hallway, no one there–and no one on the pillow next to you…”

Money can’t fill the void of being connected anymore than social media can.

Another article I was reading that appeared in Vogue said “In the digital age, often little time is left for meaningful, face-to-face connections with others, yet we rely on this emotional sustenance as much as we do on food and drink.”

We need each other! We were never meant to do life alone.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a Chicago-based clinical phycologist and clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University said “We don’t have to learn something new to fight loneliness. We have to remember something forgotten.” Amen to that.

Throw in the coronavirus pandemic and we got ourselves an overwhelming, universal, unapparelled society full of unspeakable loneliness. According to a Harvard research, teens and young adults have been hit the hardest by the pandemic which is truly a sad thing to see. Sad but understandable because this age group needs each other as they navigate being away from school and extra circular activities to suddenly being left alone on their own. And young adults are away at school, dealing with homesickness and the unfamiliar without their support system in place.

It’s all hard.

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Another group that has been hit with more trouble than they were already dealing with are wives and families of addicts. I get that the addict has been affected as well, and, not all addicts are men, but because I have talked to a lot of women in this kind of relationship, I tend to focus on the wives of addicts.

A woman that already lives with uncertainty and feelings of being alone in this thing, whether it be the marriage or the stress that comes with living with addiction, has had to endure added levels of loneliness. Life changed in 2020. The changes brought more isolation than ever before.

And then there’s the disconnected marriage which may be the loneliness of all. Being married but lonely. Sleeping next to the man you were so in love with not that long ago, and now, for whatever reason, there is a void, a gap of great proportions, between you and your forever date. The reason for the distance doesn’t matter, it is what it is, and it is lonely.

One group of people isn’t more important than another. We have an issue that has touched the lives of all demographics. The answer for each of these groups is the same. The solution is one of intention.

Choosing to be fully present with the people you are with has never been more necessary. Being aware of your surroundings no matter where you are is vital.

Eye contact.

A smile.

A hug or hand shake.

All of those things have been taken away but for some of us, it’s time to take the risk. It’s time to look at the importance of this loneliness pandemic and how that affects our bodies in a negative way just as much as a virus can and does, and connect anyway, in a face-to-face, in-person situation.

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Most importantly, it’s time to see that there is an end to this life. There is a gateway to eternal life where loneliness, sickness and grief don’t exist. His name is Jesus. He came to give you life. Do you know Him?




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