Being a Widow

I have had the opportunity to talk with several women about being a widow since starting my podcast, Chasing Hard When Life Doesn’t Turn Out the Way You Planned. Most of the widows are young. I also meet countless new widows on my job. I am a pastoral care coordinator at my church and arranging … Read more


The yearnings of the heart are sometimes difficult to identify. I dropped my son off at the airport early on New Year’s Eve morning. For some strange reason, it’s typically harder for me to leave California, where he lives, than to drop him off so he can fly home. This goodbye was a little different. … Read more

Losing Someone You Love

life, suicide, loss, losing someone you love, divorce, breakups, dealing with loss, life is hard, life and loss, grief, grieving, grieving well

Losing someone you love is a topic most of us can relate to. When talking about losing someone you love, we’re not just talking about death. Most certainly death is one of the ways we experience loss, but the falling apart of a relationship is another form of loss, whether by divorce or a breakup … Read more

Being a Widow

I have talked with a few women about being a widow on Chasing Hard Podcast. They have different stories and stages of life when the death of their husband occurred yet the similarities that exist between their tale of hardship connects them in a way I’m sure they’d rather not be connected. Life can be … Read more

Turning 60

betrayal, trauma, relationships, help, hope, don't do it alone, EMDR, counseling

I came across this post I wrote on another blog I have, Not A Perfect Life, and I wanted to share it here. Although it has been two years since I turned 60 the words still resonate. Today is my last day being 59 years old. I guess it’s only natural that I am feeling … Read more

How Can You Mend A Broken Heart?

relationships, broken heart, identity, knowing your identity, knowing your identity in Christ,

Do you remember your first broken heart? I certainly remember mine. I thought I would die from the weightiness of it all. I remember listening to the Bee Gees’ song How Can You Mend A Broken Heart? over and over. The tenderness of a teenaged heart is something you never forget. Mending a Broken Heart … Read more


It seems that I am in a time of lingering. I guess life has many moments where we wait for something to take place. This lingering spot is new to me. Last week my dad teetered between life and death. There was a lot of watching; a lot of time spent in the hospital…lingering. And … Read more